why Coaching
It may not sound like a great marketing scheme — telling people they're okay.
But I'm tired of being sold things by being made to feel scared or inadequate. So I'm going to be frank with you: You don't need me.
You are a beautiful human. You are okay just the way you are, BUT…
If you are:
Sick and tired (literally) of fueling your accomplishments through shame, anxiety, and self recrimination.
Haunted by abandoned projects, false starts, and unmet dreams.
Preoccupied and ashamed of your perceived failings — hiding them behind a mask of perfectionism or avoidance.
Itching to start or finish that thrilling/scary project or life change, but feeling stuck or spinning your wheels.
Yearning for shifts — to (re)claim joy and energy.
In the midst of a hard/disorienting transition.
Frustrated with your lack of progress, embarrassed, self-conscious, full to the brim with “shoulds.”
Unsatisfied, but tempted to settle — thinking “Oh well, I guess this is it…?” as you go about a routine you hate.
Groping around in the murk for clarity and direction, while utterly overwhelmed and exhausted and hounded by your to-do list, obligations and even more “should’s” every time you try to rest.
And dream of:
Developing self-compassionate, sustainable ways to work toward your goals.
Identifying a direction that truly fits you—and moving toward it in a way that works with your unique rhythm and needs.
Learning what *specific* ADHD traits and tendencies are impacting your life, to release shame and get to work in ways that work.
Working from your beautiful, unique, mix of strengths.
Clarifying your values & getting MOVING!
Prioritizing what lights you up, to reclaim joy and energy.
Connecting to where you are and discover what changes you want to move toward (rather than what you’re running from).
My Promise As Your Coach:
I believe :
You are whole.
You have all the tools you need.
That your ADHD brain and body can offer you super-powers, once you learn how to wield them.
That you can be more of you want to be and DO more of what you dream of when you kick the perfectionism/shame habit.
In your ability to grow, learn, forgive, and change.
In play and metaphor and the enormous intelligence our bodies possess.
In the freedom available if you’re willing to re-write your stories.
In the wisdom and clarity that can come from sitting with our discomfort.
In silence.
I will:
Stand up for you, to you.
Ask those tough questions that make you wish you’d never met me, but also very glad you did.
Share what I hear and see with loving, unvarnished honesty.
Offer scientifically grounded ADHD information, in digestible bites.*
Co-create strategies and tools to support your ADHD brain. *
Move at a pace and rhythm that work for you.
Bring mama bear love to our work - never shaming, but always fierce.
Expect your full buy-in.
First, though, I hope you will take a moment and congratulate yourself.
“Why on earth would I do that?!” you say?
Because it takes bravery to admit that things aren’t right.
It’s vulnerable to let yourself want change. Real change.
So I hope you will stand up right now and do a celebratory dance for letting yourself think and feel these things.*
And then (and this is a tricky one), let yourself believe, for just a moment that you are okay exactly as you are.
You don’t need me. But I might be able to help.
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*This is how I begin every coaching relationship - rooting into the fact that you are okay. And do you know what’s magical about this? Connecting to your okay-ness lets you trust yourself. It gives you permission to turn down the volume on the (hundreds of?) thousands of voices, telling you what you should want, do value, look like, sound like, eat, work toward, and on and on and on. It gives you space to get in touch with what you need, what you want out of your life. What changes you want to make and what is just fine, exactly as it is.
You are okay, exactly as you are. it is my sincere hope that by reading this you have absorbed that fact on a cellular level and are now good to go. If, however, all of this resonates, but you’re not sure how to put it into practice, I would love to chat and see if we would be a good match to work together.